Depression is a challenge, it can affect everyone from your everyday person to celebrities. It’s not a choice to suffer from depression, but there is a choice in how you react to it.
Ernest Hemingway eventually chose suicide. He decided he didn’t want to confront the demons of his depression any longer. Sometimes even the strongest can fall.
Depression isn’t a joke and it’s certainly not a weakness. It can wrap its large hands around your neck and strangle you into submission. It’s not fun to suffer and you can’t “just get over it.”
It’s a battle, a war. You may not be able to switch your moods with the snap of your fingers, but you can choose to drop your gloves against this crushing illness.
Depression can help create mystical stories like Edgar Allan Poe’s. It can help create awe inspiring paintings like Vincent Van Gogh’s. It can help create beautiful music like Beethoven’s.
Many have suffered, in many professions. Actor Marlon Brando (of The Godfather) suffered from chronic depression his entire life. Billy Joel checked himself into a hospital after a failed suicide attempt. Becoming the “President of The United States of America” while suffering from major depression is even a possibility, like Abraham Lincoln did.
Unfortunately, most people who suffer deeply enough turn to drugs and alcohol. I turned to alcohol. The reason drugs and alcohol are the dark alleys people linger down is because it’s a form of self-medication. It’s no different then the guy who comes home after a long day of work and drinks a six-pack of beer while watching mindless television. He’s self-medicating himself to avoid the issues — loneliness, job dissatisfaction, stress, etc. — that are being presented directly to him.
The list of famous people who suffer or have suffered can go on and on. What needs to be understood is that you can be very successful while getting punched and kicked by this bully that invades your mind.
As you can tell by Poe, Van Gogh, and Beethoven, depression can carry certain benefits if you are a creative artist such as a writer, a painter, or a musician. You just have to be careful you don’t get too deep like Hemingway and Billy Joel.
But what if you’re a CEO or everyday worker? Can you still live a successful life while dealing with the daily grind depression can bring?
In a society where power and hiding from your vulnerabilities rule all, hiding from depression is a common problem. Success can come with glorious benefits, but certain fears also tag along. It all depends what your goals are, what YOU are about. If you are about respect, compassion, kindness, and love, you are on the right track, and yes, you can become a wealthy person living by those traits. If you are solely about power and money, a laundry list of insecurities will clench onto you, potentially leading you down a disastrous path.
You can be anything while suffering, it’s been done. A powerful CEO or a single mom working two jobs to get by. The key is to fight back and never give up.
Here are some ways to fight depression while living a successful life:
1. Keep Up With Your Health
You don’t need crazy workouts to be healthy, that’s just a myth created by the fitness industry. All you really need is a sensible diet and some regular activity that gets you moving. Go for a long walk, do some simple bodyweight exercises, or enjoy an activity that gets you sweating. You don’t have to squat 400 pounds to be ‘fit’, that’s just macho, ego talk that persuades people to be scared of fitness.
Self-medication is a dangerous outlet when it comes to mental illness. Alcohol was my form of self-medication. For many celebrities, hard drugs is an addiction they fall into to escape the reality of their mental demons. When money and access are not a problem, it becomes far too easy to believe drugs are the best way to forget about your struggles.
Drugs and alcohol can kill. They can be used as a form of delayed suicide. Be conscious if you’re falling into that trap and seek help immediately if you are.
2. Read…A lot
I recommend a minimum of an hour a day. Read stories about people who have suffered, read strategies you could use in your life, read some good fiction. Keep your mind working.
Letting depression force you into a dark corner is far too easy. Sometimes you’ll feel as if you have no control, but you do. It may be a moment to fight, but reading good books can help teach you and inspire you to keep going.
3. Live Aggressively
Facing our fears feels harder than climbing Everest. It’s scary. Fight the urge to stay in your room and go out to dinner with a friend. Start building momentum, understand depression doesn’t have to hold you back.
Living passively is the worst way to handle depression, it keeps you tied down. When I first started talking openly about my depression I was scared. Just the thought of sharing my feelings caused my body to pour sweat. I aggressively worked through my sweat drenched clothes and talked. It helped. It actually speed up my recovery because, whether people understood or not, they knew how I felt.
I could be who I was. It was freeing. If I had a bad day it was easier to acknowledge it, and work through the day with it.
Living aggressively doesn’t mean taking an axe to everything in your path. It’s not a violent or vicious path. Living aggressively is living intently. Simply intend on moving past your depression and get to work.
We have one life. Don’t allow depression to keep you down.
4. Be Better Today Than You Were Yesterday
It’s okay to struggle, but it’s not okay to quit.
How you improve at anything is through constant tiny steps that eventually turn into one, gigantic success.
It’s the same with battling depression. You have to work at it. It doesn’t just disappear. You have to work through your issues and make small improvements as you go.
“I’ve had some dark nights of the soul, of course, but giving in to depression would be a sellout, a defeat.” – Christopher Hitchens
Depression will knock you back down along your journey, that’s guaranteed. The key: to get your ass back up. I used to let depression knock me out for weeks, sometimes months. It was horrible. Once I started working on myself, I was able to start making a little progress and feeling a little better.
Then, I was better. It didn’t happen on a scheduled date, it just happened. I just believed I was better, and I was. I don’t really have an explanation for it, that’s just the way it happened for me. After years of tiny improvements, I finally felt like I had just defeated my enemy.
But it starts small. Sometimes just getting out of bed is that small step. Do it. Throwing off the covers and sliding out can be a successful day while you’re fighting. Create a positive mindset around that success and begin building momentum.
5. The Search For Personal Greatness
Being in a deep depression allows you to laser focus on the present. Every thought about your life is on display and available for analysis. A major factor in overcoming depression is coming to grips with who you are.
This can be life’s greatest struggle. Most highly successful people lose their way in the search for more money or more power; however, we must remember, deep seeded happiness comes from within, not from materials. Yes, materials and ego boosting delusions that associate with money and power help, but that happiness is only as strong as the current feeling towards your material items or ego. If they crash or lose intensity, so does your happiness.
Being successful doesn’t mean being a millionaire, it means being happy. Battling with mental illness will be the hardest fight of your life, but it’s a fight worth putting your full effort into. As you claw out of your personal dark dark valley you’ll find new aspects of yourself and accept that person.
The law of impermanence reminds us we will one day pass, be gone from this life. Focusing on material and ego based power is dangerous and could lead to disaster. Experiencing life and learning about your true self will lead to a successful life filled with happiness.
Mental illness can ravage a life, but you don’t have to let it. The stigma surrounding mental illness is an incredibly dangerous one, keeping many quiet about their struggles. That’s why I write openly about mine. We must let people know that it’s okay to struggle, but it’s never okay to quit.
There’s nothing quite like that feeling you get when your boss, or maybe a coach or someone who’s important in your life says, “I believe in you, and you’re doing a fantastic job. I see so much potential in you that I’ve got a higher position for you.”
The great news I have for you today is that God sees the very best in you. He wants to promote you! He desires to take you to a new level of joy, productiveness and fulfillment.
I want to help you prepare for promotion. I want you to be successful in your work...enjoy a satisfying, loving marriage...see your finances grow...build meaningful relationships...and experience victory over any circumstance! Here are the key, biblical principles that will help you get ready for promotion:Have faith that God can help you rise above any adversity.
When you’re in a difficult situation and something is going on that you don’t like, very often this is simply a test of your faith. If this is you, I hope you will find some comfort in the fact that God has your best interest at heart. Regardless of your current circumstances, let me encourage you to follow Him faithfully. As you do, God will begin to turn things around for your good and His glory.
Every day we receive hundreds of letters from friends who share with us how God has used this ministry to encourage them and help them stay strong in their faith during tough times. One testimony came from Greg, who shared how God honored his commitment to keep a positive, faith-filled attitude even after he received crushing news that his boss had changed his mind about a raise he had agreed to give Greg:
“His words were like a stranglehold on my throat. I went home and prayed. I asked God to allow me to feel peace and not anger toward my boss. The next morning I was sharing with my wife how I needed to be more thankful, and the phone rang. It was my boss, saying my raise had been reinstated! I was speechless. This is a new chapter in my walk with the Lord. Thank you for your words of hope and encouragement. They’ve helped me more than you know!”
What a great reminder that when God is ready, no man can stop Him! No circumstance can keep you down! When God says it’s time, it’s time. “Because of your faith it will happen” (Matthew 9:29, TLB).
If you’re going to be ready for your promotion, it’s so important that you have a teachable spirit. We should always be willing to learn. Stay open to new ideas and new ways of doing things. If others are critical of you, don’t get defensive — take the opportunity to do a self-evaluation and use it to motivate yourself to grow and improve.
A big part of being teachable is to be humble, especially with those God has placed in authority over you. Greg could have gotten mad at his boss for canceling his raise. But Greg humbly accepted the lesson God wanted him to learn, and the situation turned around.
That’s a soft heart and a teachable spirit! When you say, “God, I don’t really understand this or agree with it, but I’m going to follow You anyway,” you’re passing the test and putting yourself in a position for God to promote you. “God’s strong hand is on you; he’ll promote you at the right time” (1 Peter 5:6, The Message).Get involved: Serve others and be a blessing.
One of the easiest things to do when you’re facing trials is to turn inward and become self-focused. But every day we should look for opportunities to do good and make a difference in other people’s lives.
A good way to wake up each morning is to ask, “Where is there a need that I can meet? How can I bless someone today?” If you take time for others, God will look out for your needs. Think of Jesus. He came as the Lord of heaven who could have demanded that everyone serve Him. But Jesus said He did not come to be served, but to serve (Mark 10:45). Live a lifestyle of giving — God promotes givers!
If you live by biblical principles, your life will be transformed like those of so many others who have already committed themselves to live above their circumstances.